Wanting Him Back
Dear Oracle,
I’m eleven and I have this on-again off-again boyfriend and we started dating this summer then he said his mom won’t let him have a girlfriend but then 3 weeks later he said his mom will let him. He asked me but I said no. But now he won’t return my calls. I like him and I also don’t want to lose a friend. What should I do?
HELP!
Love,
Wanting Him Back!
Dear Wanting Him Back,
Thanks for your question. To me, eleven is a wonderful age—an age to have fun! Whether he’s a boyfriend, or just a boy friend, I don’t think there’s any need to label your relationship. Obviously, his mom doesn’t like the label either, so I’d scrap it.
Since you recently said no to being his girlfriend again, he may be hurt and that’s why he isn’t returning your calls. Or—and forgive me for being blunt here—he may just be more focused on his video games, or whatever he does for fun. Most eleven-year-old guys don’t have the life experience or maturity to figure out relationships with girls. (And the same may be true a few years down the line…)
It sounds like you have the right idea to just call it a friendship. I hope you enjoy the rest of your summer– whether he calls you back or not.
The Oracle
I agree completely with the oracle. I am only 12(to be 13 in september!!) and i have my own guy problems. If i could go back, even if it was just a year, i would never be involved with men. I am interested in someone, but that is OK. But i would never date him because, at this age we should be enjoying ourself with our friends!! You know, going to the movies, going to the mall, or to the pool! I am trying to say that it is a good idea to be just friends, and like my mom says “Don’t date till’ you can drive!” lol
I completely agree with the Oracle as well as Cookieluver. I’m fifteen, but I’m talking to someone who is 14. He is very interested in playing video games, and just hanging out with friends, but he keeps saying how much he likes me, then saying he doesn’t want a relationship because of his friends. Guys aren’t to mature between the ages of 10-15. My brother is 13 and he is doing the same thing to a friend of mine who is about to be 16. Your teen years are for fun. As well as your pre teen years. Don’t waste time.
I agree totally. Actually I wrote this e-mail and the oracle helped me alot.
My friend and I decided to be friends. (For now.) Maybe in our teen years we will be together.
Teen years are more fun! (You can kiss!) I totally agree with cookieluver and Iessababe. You all helped me. Thank you
whut r u talking about teen years r for fun wth guys and girlsfriends. u shud b makin out, goin to partys n goin on dates!!! everyone has their own opinion. and thats just miine.
love the book!!
I think i agree with the oracle. i mean. if his mom doesnt want you dating, i wouldnt push the envelope. Truthfully, i think 11 is a little young to be dating. crushing is fine. but having a title is a bit much drama for that age. You should be enjoying life. not worrying about if he likes you or not. Its not like your gunna get married anytime soon, right? Thats just my opinion.. (:
~Koolbeanz
every moment should be SPECIAL. not just for FUN. And you shouldnt be kissing, or making out at age 13 or 10. its too YOUNG!!! you should waite for that special guy and tahn have that SPECIAL KISS. and than TADA your together!. its just alll a mader of time and getting to know one another. I know i sound like your mom or a therapised or something else, but it doesnt mean you havee to do what i say but, its just, to early, and to big of a problem if the WHOLE school knows. so what i would say is just FALLOW YOUR HEAR <3